Hope u can help me me and my husband split up eary last year due to his violence we had been married 13yr?

he got his own place i kept the house but had to move as couldnt afford to run it my husband met someone instantly when i moved in november a lot of my male mates helped me to move and one of them made a move at me and i accepted :-s and we have been seing each other since i have had doubts from the start thou he is a lovely bloke loving caring perfect gentleman great with the kids but he is 22years older than me!! and i'm weary its also too soon after such a long marrage that was so violent any ideas what i should do